I have chosen to focus on my world. Last time, I spent 4 years being stressed out and horrified…this time I plan to keep an eye on the news (which is already both horrifying and exactly what we all thought would happen even as others, including many major media outlets, told us we were fearmongering and overreacting…but I digress…though at least there is the feeling of, yes, I was correct, I was not overreacting…) WHILE focusing on my personal world. Like, how would we be living if there weren’t news?

Of course, this makes me feel guilty that I do have such an insular and privileged life that if I ignore things I can mostly just live my life (for now!) while being concerned for many things. Because living my personal past reproductive age life is easy, but many of my friends are women of child-bearing years or before, many are on the ACA, many are lgbtqia+, many are immigrants…not to mention all the destruction from the fires in CA and how inadequate the federal government response to the next disaster is likely to be.

Focusing on what is right here: teaching started up last week and OH MY GOD IT IS SO COLD OUTSIDE–my phone says it is currently -1 degrees and for my international readers, that’s FAHRENHEIT. I would say I am grateful that I don’t have to go outside today and my students come to me, but I really need to go grocery shopping, ha! I’m grateful I have a giant purple winter coat that keeps me quite warm on days like today, and I’m grateful for my seat heaters. And my amazing radiant heat in the house: radiators are seriously where it’s at and we feel warm and cozy here.

Stay warm and stay informed, but stay calm and collected. We won’t let them ruin our lives: they love “triggering the libs” so the important thing to do is not be “triggered” but that doesn’t mean what they are doing isn’t also real. Gosh, it’s so awful and complicated, isn’t it? How sad that making other people upset is such a main priority! The thing I try to remind myself is that mostly they just want money and power, and again, how sad is that? It really shows me how glad I am about the choices I’ve made in my life about what’s important to me.

It has been a LOVELY week. I should have vacation every week!

I’ve slept in, I’ve woken up early without an alarm, I’ve stayed up late and gone to bed early. I’ve read, watched tv, organized, cleaned, hung out with friends, watched a movie, snuggled with Louie and the cats, decorated for Christmas (more to do), baked bread, planned baking for Christmas, hiked in the woods, eaten lots of great food, enjoyed the snow, and just plain old relaxed.

It’s been fabulous. And today is the last day, sad!

But, that’s okay. Three weeks more of work and then I get to spend Christmas hosting my family, and then I get more vacation after that, and really, life isn’t bad at all. (If you ignore the news, easier said than done.)

Thanksgiving dinner was lovely. We met Louie’s family and some of their friends at the Whittemore House for a buffet, and enjoyed several hours of eating and conversation. It was a little sad not to have leftovers, but I think Christmas will be enough of that.

We met our friends Michael and Heather at Pere Marquette. It was sunny but very cold. We hiked about 3.5 miles and then went to the Old Bakery Beer Company for lunch.

I snapped this picture of the house getting home from a wedding yesterday (I did play one gig over the “break”). While we were eating dinner some young girls stopped by to ask if we needing our snow shoveled so we paid them a little to do so. One shoveled off the porch edges which wasn’t necessary at all but we don’t like to micromanage 🙂

Anyway, I’m doing laundry and probably going to pickle some cranberries now. Later we are hitting up the old house and then eating dinner out somewhere in the old neighborhood, and then back to work tomorrow. How has your Thanksgiving been?

It’s finally here! I work today and then I’m off until Saturday!!

I woke up with a headache though, which was annoying. I am blaming the weather change, but maybe I’m dehydrated as well? I realized that the sparkling water that I love was maybe making me have a bit of acid reflux or similar, so I’ve been cutting back, but have I been replacing it with regular water? Of course not, because that wouldn’t be as fun. So we watched Cobra Kai for several episodes last night and instead of my usual sparkling water I drank absolutely nothing. And woke up with a headache, hmm.

The weekend was fun and we took full advantage of the offerings at Wash U (a short walk away!). Friday night we saw Nicole Mitchell play at the 560 Center as well as some of our local favorites like Kendrick Smith. It was through New Music Circle, but was really jazz, in my opinion, because it felt so improvised and had a drummer. What does definite these different genres, really? Kendrick is a terrific jazz musician, and plays the saxophone, so that seemed like jazz. But nonetheless Louie and I enjoyed the concert.

Saturday night we went to see a play at the Performing Arts Department of Wash U. It was The Thanksgiving Play by Larissa Fasthorse, and we really enjoyed it. The acting was terrific, the play was hilarious and really thought-provoking. I found this New York Times article about it just now. I have to remind myself that we have so much to do here in St Louis when we look for it, and usually I am too busy to do it anyway!

Otherwise, the weekend was the normal work, a wedding, a Sunday afternoon concert, etc. I would have enjoyed having even more downtime but I don’t regret the events we went to. Always the choice!

But now, just one more day. We have some fun events planned for Thanksgiving besides dinner: Garden Glow, lunch at Florentin, a hike at Pere Marquette with friends, a girls’ night, and more! And I’d love to get the Christmas decorations up (and will) — we started yesterday late afternoon with outdoor wreaths which I am super thrilled with. We also set up a chest freezer in the basement that I am eager to fill with baked goods for the holidays.

What are your plans for Thanksgiving? Are you traveling? I’m kind of sad I’m not, but I’m also really happy with the things we have planned and look forward to just relaxing at home as well.

This week is going by so slowly…probably because it is the last week before Thanksgiving? I’m ready for a break, but then I’m like, oh my goodness Christmas is really soon after that and I start worrying about all the stuff to do…then I look at it and realize, no, it’s still plenty of time if I just organize it.

Thanksgiving will be low key: we are going out to a buffet at the Whittemore House with Louie’s family. We also have some plans with friends over the break, hiking and going to the garden glow, that should be a lot of fun. I also want to get the house decorated, or at least everything except the real tree. Since we are hosting, we want a real tree this year and I think it’s better to wait on those?

Louie’s dad visited from Philadelphia over the weekend. I had a fair amount of things going on, but we did get some time to hang out in front of the fire and also had a nice dinner all together (well, no cats) at Esca.

I made some fruitcakes about a week ago. I used this recipe from King Arthur, which I’d used a few years ago. It should be really delicious, though only time will tell. I’ve been “feeding” it with brandy and some other things, and will do so weekly until Christmas.

It was a busy week, as usual. I am glad to have all the student performances behind me, for sure. The only thing left for that is a few juries at the end of the semester (which is shockingly close). I’m trying to squeeze in some makeup lessons this week, and I’m just sooooo ready for some time off next week.

Life is fine…if you ignore the news things don’t seem so bad, even though they really are. I try to focus on what’s around me and tell myself that maybe it’ll be fine, even with all the talk of mass roundups and deportations is around us, the cabinet posts being filled with men who are known rapists and pedophiles…it’s just a lot. Back in 2016, I thought, somebody will save us, and I know that it isn’t true. The ACLU is doing a lot already though, and the main thing that I read that seems logical is don’t give up, don’t roll over ahead of time. That it’s the actions of everybody that matter. So I do what I can in my little world, and you can do what you can, and we can take the time we need right now, and be ready to fight, and donate, and volunteer, and (ugh) make calls and such. The other thing I found encouraging was a reminder that (and I’m not a huge Star Wars person) bad things happened again after Return of the Jedi. Like, we have to keep fighting, and fiction is fiction but it’s based on human truths. One thing that upsets me is all the people who said, oh the democrats say every election is so important, it might be the last one, etc, like they are saying it’s the boy who cried wolf. But yeah, every election is so important, and you should always vote like it might be the last one. That’s how it works. And all the people who didn’t show up, who didn’t vote, they are also to blame.

An interesting painting in the women’s room at a recent wedding venue.

But anyway, it’s easy to get bogged down in despair, but I’m not letting it happen to me. Anxiety meds help, of course, but also focusing on positive stuff. Planning Christmas, planning vacations in the future, reading books, having conversations with friends, taking walks, watching and petting cats, playing music, teaching children to play music, etc. All fun stuff!

I’m hosting Christmas this year for my parents and sisters (my brother is unable to attend, though still welcome), and that means making plans in advance. Now, you may be saying, what, so soon? (If you are a super last minute person, nobody who has ever hosting Christmas is saying that). Or perhaps you are saying, but it’s Halloween season right now?

Let’s take a minute and be old people and grump about Halloween season anyway. What’s the deal with that? And do you have to do a new costume for each party/festive occasion? Does Trunk or Treat have the dumbest name or what? Back in my day, we had one costume and we wore it trick or treating around the neighborhood, and we were told just to watch out for apples with razor blades in them, as if we wouldn’t just toss an apple out rather than continue carrying it around! Who eats apples for Halloween anyway? And the walking we did around the neighborhood probably negated a lot of the candy calories anyway, but if not, eating too much candy and then throwing up would have done the same.

But I digress. Oh! In further digression, have I told you about Trunksgiving before? You get your cars, you meet your friends in a large parking lot somewhere and each person has one side dish for Thanksgiving in their trunk and you eat them outside, tailgate style.

In the spirit of a random blog post: we aren’t doing much for Thanksgiving. We need some time off and some days to catch up on house stuff and other related stuff, so we will do a small Thanksgiving with Louie’s family, possibly at the Whittemore House so we can save our cooking chops for Christmas. Last year was a big deal for Thanksgiving even if it got derailed by COVID, and I feel like it happened too recently to do it again. We had debated traveling for the holiday, but Louie vetoed and wanted to stay in instead.

So back to Christmas. As much as Leslie and I have been joking about making things in advance (such as salads, it’s a family joke about how in advance you can prepare things because my mother is the queen of advance preparation and is where we learned all of our planning skills), I did make some holiday things this past weekend.

First off, it’s important to note two things: I had the entire afternoon and evening off on Sunday. And Louie was out of town for a work thing. I work so many hours that an afternoon and evening off TO MYSELF looked like the most decadent thing I could even imagine, so what did I do? Well, after finishing my makeup lessons and a family zoom call, I went to the grocery store and bought ingredients to make Alton Brown’s Aged Eggnog and Food in Jars’s Pickled Cranberries. And made them both in a matter of a few hours. I had lost some of my canning skills but I brought them back quickly enough.

Some of those jars are just the brine, or really, shrub, from the recipe. I made the pickled cranberries a few years ago during my canning heyday, and while we didn’t actually love the cranberries (they are totally fine, but not amazing), Louie absolutely loved the brine in mixed drinks. I actually haven’t tried it, but I figured it would be great to offer people, as well as supposedly excellent to mix with sparkling water as well for a holiday drink.

And the eggnog, I also went through an eggnog phase a few years back, and I haven’t made aged eggnog since. I am only having it age about two months in this case, slightly less, but it should be a nice treat for the adults who wish to try it.

Other holiday plans: having some time off after Christmas. And Louie is teaching a winter term class so I have some days off where he is working. On the one hand, I’m sad he isn’t off too because we could do something fun. On the other hand, I could just lounge around and catch up on my reading. It’ll probably be somewhere in between and I am also looking at a short getaway for us after his class is over, maybe somewhere with a hot tub where we can just get away from it all for a few days before the semester starts again.

So that’s my random holiday thought dump! How about you, what are you doing for the holidays? And an important question: how far in advance do you and your family start planning events?

It has been A MONTH. Nothing bad at all, but I am running on fumes. I got to have the evening free last night, but that was about all.

I am just running from thing to thing, keeping to do lists and barely keeping up, and really feeling like what I’d love to do is snuggle up in my warm bed and sleep…

Last weekend was great fun though. We took the weekend and did an organized bike/canoe trip, and had a blast! I’m going to spend a little time this week writing a more organized post on that (another thing on my to-do list, but FUN so I’ll leave it there now.

Then I hit the ground running. I tell you: it’s been teaching, gigs (so many weddings, funerals, etc), practicing (another baroque concert coming up!), rehearsing for various concerts, and trying to keep up around the house (grocery shopping, cooking, laundry are my main tasks). It’s been a balancing act, and the thing being balanced out is well being, most likely. I don’t know. I’m probably trying to do too much, but the thing I’d most want to cut back on is teaching, and teaching is my main source of income, so it’s a tricky situation. Do I give up more regular income to have the chance at other things, or do I just keep cramming it in? I keep thinking to myself, maybe I won’t grow my studio for the next year or so and see about dropping down a little more over time, and then see how that works out.

We’ve also had a friend staying with us this past week, which has been nice but is, you know, one more thing! Meals are a slightly bigger affair and don’t have as many leftovers, and honestly, I have hardly even been here, but I can’t just run in and out as easily.

I know this is “famous last words” and “never really happens” but I do think November will be a little more relaxing. I have a few weekends with much less stuff, though who knows, more things may pop up that I want to do, but I am hopeful that we will get some bike rides or hikes in, as well as getting some work done at the old house.

And it’s not all “bad”: I’ve made time for plenty of books this month: reading is easy to fit in in small breaks, over lunch, and of course at night. It’s something that I find relaxes me, and it’s easy to pop my kindle into my tote bag for the day and read a little bit if I get somewhere easy or need to “kill time” between gigs or something.

I often thing it might be worth doing a post about how I plan and organize my time, but I don’t know if I do anything that exciting or unique. Would that be something you’d like to read, or are there question about being a musician/teacher/freelancer that would be interesting to read about? Perhaps there are aspects of my life that are more unique than I realize?