Wedding planning

I am seriously not cut out for wedding planning.  Chris keeps getting excited about stuff and I keep getting stressed out.  We are working on our location though, and I’m excited to get that pinned down soon.  I will let you know what we end up doing, but we are looking at two different venues right now and are currently working on negotiations.

I am looking forward to the food tastings..both of our venues provide food so the tasting will come later.  I shall channel my inner Emily Gilmore.

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How do you like my outfit?

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Oh, I’m READY for the 80s race.  (I know I said I wouldn’t show you my outfit, but I love this picture too much not to go ahead and spoil the surprise. I am not good at keeping things secret).  I mean, I have my costume ready.   That’s not ENTIRELY complete of course, the hair is not ready.  Nor have I really RUN in several days…(unimportant).

Another end-of-year concert done!

Last night was the end of year concert for my orchestra.  They did a fantastic job!  I had been frustrated with a few things relating to this concert, but it all turned out just fine. 

Afterwards we met up with some friends at Mango.  They were eating dinner but Chris and I cooked instead.  We had a lovely time chatting and having a drink.  I tried something called the “crackberry” which had strawberries, basil (I think?), and pepper in it and was delicious.  Mango is located right next to Chris’s first apartment here in St. Louis, a downtown loft.  It used to be where Mosaic was located and we had been there before.  Our friends said their dinners were fine but not fantastic.

Today I woke up 30 minutes before my alarm.  Part is the sun, part is that I have been going to bed really early, and part is the stress.  I think it’ll be better when my schools are done…I certainly know I am looking forward to that immensely!

This morning I am rehearsing the group at another school for a concert on Friday night.  I had the program chosen already but I found out yesterday that evidently the parents thought the violin portion was too long last time and we need to cut it down.  Don’t get me started on parents.  (I believe the violin portion was under 10 minutes).  I think I know what I’m cutting out and I hope the kids aren’t disappointed.  I suppose I’ll just tell them to blame their classmates’ parents!

Teach, gym, teach.  Wish me luck!

Patience of a saint

I was told in an email this morning I must have the patience of a SAINT.

I’ve often thought that patience was one of my strong suits in teaching.   However, the last two Mondays I’ve been truly challenged with my patience.  I have very high expectations for myself, and high expectations for the class, but sometimes I just get frustrated at the behavior.

Yesterday one of my students dropped his violin on the ground.  He had done this many times before.  This time the scroll broke off. 

That was first.

Then the kids acted shocked, like “how could this happen?”  I grew annoyed because I have told them 1000’s of times to be careful with their instruments because THEY COULD BREAK.  Here it finally happens and I guess they just didn’t believe me.

Then I got an email that annoyed me, one of those passive aggressive type emails that won’t answer your question or help you but instead blames somebody else…

I lost all of my patience.  In one of my classes one of the girls said, “I think Miss Frey needs a nap”.  I told them they just needed to play better, that I was annoyed because they sounded so much worse than last week.  Which was at least half-true—some of them don’t bother practicing the assignments–ever.

Sometimes I think it’s okay to be mad.  I spend a lot of time trying not to overreact to things as I am prone to do, and I spend a lot of time trying to keep my emotions under control.  But when is it okay to actually be mad?  Not at the kids, but at the adults?  I always try to be nice and pleasant and smiling, because generally that works well, but there are times when that doesn’t work.  And then I feel so helpless, so small, so insignificant. 

In any case, I was in a bad mood all day yesterday.  Until the end of the day.  One of my students is leaving soon (moving) and I’ve only taught him for a few months.  I was so touched when he told me he was sad to leave, that I was the best violin teacher he’d ever had, and that he would miss me.  I thought he hated his lessons, and so that REALLY made me feel good. 

I also know the kids from yesterday will be better for me on Wednesday since I was giving them a hard time.  I certainly hope they’ve practiced a bit more, but if nothing else, not talking while I’m talking would be a huge improvement.

I don’t have the patience of a saint.  I just fake it.

Life of an orchestral musician in a nutshell

This weekend is the final concert series for the SLSO.  After this, they play with Opera Theatre St Louis and have a few other lighter classics concerts until the end of June.  Then the season is over.

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I was talking about this with Mike the other day and he asked, when does the season start up again.  I told him, September.  He asked, oh, so do they spend the summer rehearsing for that?

No!  They have time off.

It’s not like middle school band when you spend all semester rehearsing for a concert.  Orchestras generally only rehearse the week of the concert for that weekend’s concert.  Let me repeat that more specifically:  orchestras generally start rehearsing on Tuesday for a Friday concert.

I realized at this point in our conversation that most people (yes, I’m taking Mike’s innocent question as what most people think.  I don’t know THAT many non-musicians, so I take these questions seriously.  Statistically I believe that works.)—most people have no idea what members of symphony orchestras do.  I wrote a wonderful post about how to get a job in a symphony orchestra (or not, really) but  then what?

What do they do in the off-season?  I’ll start with this question, even though it might be a bit backwards.

It’s not like sports, where the team needs a few months to get back in shape.  First off, the team (well, orchestra) never gets OUT of shape.  Most of the members continue working during the “off-season” at various summer festivals.  Other members take some time off and travel or relax, but generally keep practicing throughout the summer.  Or, to be honest, they take some time off, but then make a valiant attempt to get back into shape before the season starts again. Other orchestras don’t have summers off at all, and so the orchestra never gets “out of shape.” Either way, please keep in mind that outside of orchestra rehearsals and concerts, the musicians spend several hours a day practicing on their own.  (I know there are people who don’t, but I’m talking about conscientious musicians that care about their skills, their careers, and their self-worth.)

What happens during the season?  What is the work schedule like?

Generally an orchestra’s work week goes like this (and please don’t yell at me about how YOUR orchestra is different or tell me classical music is dead because I don’t care, I’m just generalizing here for the public):

  • Monday:  OFF (Monday is pretty universally the off day in symphony orchestra world.)
  • Tuesday: OFF or perhaps one rehearsal of 2 to 2 1/2 hours.
  • Wednesday:  Usually a “double”, meaning two rehearsals, generally one is 2 hours and one is 2 1/2 hours long.
  • Thursday:  Often the same as Wednesday, unless the orchestra  plays Thursday night concerts, in which case Tuesday might have been a “double”.  Either way there is generally a morning rehearsal of 2 1/2 hours OR a double.
  • Friday:  Depends.  Maybe a morning concert, maybe an evening concert, maybe a morning rehearsal followed by an evening concert.
  • Saturday:  Generally just an evening concert
  • Sunday:  Matinee (afternoon concert) or OFF.

To complicate matters (or further clarify, depending on your interpretation), each rehearsal or concert is called a “service” and each week would have between 7 and 9 services.  Each orchestra has various rules and restrictions on how many services there can be in a given week or perhaps a limit on the number of say, 8 or 9 service weeks over the course of the season.  Also, in each 2 or 2 1/2 rehearsal there is a break in the middle of 15 to 20 minutes.  Generally for the weekend’s concert series of 2 to 4 concerts (all the same), the orchestra will have had 4 to 5 rehearsals.  The number of concert weeks ranges for each orchestra, but even an orchestra that only performs 5 concerts a year generally then only rehearses for 5 weeks.

Some of you might be saying, wow, that sounds like a pretty light schedule.  Is it?  Let’s see, 8 services, why that’s only 16 to 20 hours of work per week!  But add in 2 to 3 hours of practicing each day, and that’s another 14 to 16 hours of work.  Plus it’s not as if you simply show up right when the rehearsal starts.  Most players are there warming up 15 to 30 minutes early for each service, so that’s another 2 to 4 hours of work.  Last but not least, when you are at work, you are working.  You cannot take a phone call, you cannot respond to an email, you cannot eat a snack (well, at break you can), you cannot do countless things that it seems to me people with other jobs do.  Not to mention that it might actually take MORE practicing that 2 to 3 hours a day sometimes.  Let’s average it out to a 35 to 50 hour work week counting practice.  Oh, and remember that many orchestras make 30,000 to 40,000 a year, and many musicians have a master’s degree.  Not a light schedule, and not a cushy job.  And you do have to keep up a certain standard of playing throughout your career, a standard that is constantly getting higher.

Next, the orchestra might expect the musicians to do community service (and they SHOULD do this, community service or outreach is very important.)  This service would generally be extra pay (the symphony here trades for a week off if you do a certain amount of outreach) but would also be extra time.

Additionally, many orchestra members teach.  They generally do this on Mondays as that is pretty universally a day off (note there is no real weekend then…).  Of course, it’s extra money.  But when the orchestra gets locked out, goes bankrupt, or simply cancels the rest of the season,  those students can be a lifesaver.

That’s the day to day life of an orchestral musician (in the USA) in a nutshell.  Any questions?

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(this sums up the life of a freelance musician such as myself)

Lazy Sunday night

Finally an evening to relax!  I have been running around non stop for what feels like weeks so it’s great to have an evening (and much of the afternoon) off to recuperate and gear up for my upcoming week.

Jen and I did a six mile run in Forest Park earlier today.  It was hot, probably as hot as during the Go! Half, but we are just in training now.  I had some stomach cramping issues so we walked a few times.  Overall it was a great run though.  We did the six miles in about the same time that last week we did 5.5 miles!

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source (It was so crazy the first time I ran on this path by the interstate!)

This afternoon was the Festival Concert at the St. Louis School of Music.  The kids did a fantastic job playing music ranging from the Bach Double to Dill Pickle Rag to Twinkle, Twinkle.  I was proud to be part of the concert and look forward to more in the future.

In other news, I found a nice review of our concert last night.

On the docket for the week:

Orchestra concert at Good Shepherd Lutheran School

Concert at Child of God School

Going to look at some wedding venues!!

Benton Park 5K on Saturday…Ready to run, and might even have a fun 80’s outfit to wear.  Will I break 30 minutes?  I’m not going to stress over it but I’d love to…

thoughts about violin, teaching, running, life.