October is a busy month

I have been trying to fit it all in this month, and I realized that is not possible. By all I mean: work (ALLLL the work), exercise, fun things, seeing friends, etc. And honestly, it almost works, but I also have realized that lately playing music (work) has been really fun and great, and that means at least that the gigs I’m doing and the people I’m getting to play with has been enjoyable. I feel satisfied by my career right now, and my biggest concern is that I have too many students.

I keep thinking of how I should cut back on evening hour teaching, and really: I need to do one or the other: I can’t get up as early as I need to and teach as late as I do…cutting down on late teaching (I’m talking even ending at 6:30, some nights now I go till 7:45) would give me those nights for relaxing and then also for gigs when they pop up. The other option is end the early mornings, which depends on some factors (I’m trying to get a raise, so it will probably end up being contingent on that for next year.)

Truthfully I haven’t been able to fit in too many social and fun activities, but there’s been enough, and then I feel like some of my work is social (it is, for musicians this totally counts) so it works out. Today is a beautiful fall day as well, and it’s nice to have the house cooling down and be sitting here with a blanket over my legs.

I have been trying to blog more often, you might not have noticed this. I haven’t been taking as many pictures as lately for a few reasons: one, nothing terribly interesting is happening (ha!) and two, the cats continue to be adorable and precious but in ways that tend to resemble the previous 100000 pictures I’ve taken so I’ve been less likely to try to take pictures of them. But I’ve checked my phone and I do have a few you might like.

Miles at the vet the other week. He is a fine healthy boy.

I do feel like there is slightly too much on my plate, but I’m managing to stay on top of things. Friday was a completely busy day with activity after activity and I got home at night and went straight to bed. Louie had gone to a wine dinner at the Whittemore House without me, so he had fun, and I was sorry to miss it. I was supposed to do two weddings on Saturday, but my contractor accidentally doublebooked one so I had the afternoon off. Louie and I took a nice fall walk through Forest Park and got caught up on everything. Then I played another gig and we went to Mi Ranchito for a later dinner. Today I have some things to do as well as an afternoon concert, but I’m looking forward to relaxing this evening (and likely folding laundry, as I’m working on that.)

Muriel has a way of knowing when I am about to leave for work and just want to sit down for a few minutes first.

Things that we aren’t getting done: yardwork (maybe next weekend) or anything at the old house. We know we need to do something about that and it’s a huge thing hanging around our necks, but it just isn’t a priority right now. We are lucky enough that it isn’t a financial necessity at the moment, but we need to figure it out…but I think we are doing pretty well with everything at the moment and I’m not going to stress out about it.

I read a few good books recently: Symphony of Secrets by Brendan Slocumb (didn’t enjoy as much as the Violin Conspiracy, but still a fun and quick paced read), The Covenant of Water by Abraham Verghese (very good, covers many generations of a family, learned a lot about India) and the latest Harry Hole book, Killing Moon by Jo Nesbo. I started reading the Harry Hole books because they take place in Norway, and in this book two of the characters go to Lorry, a restaurant that was near our Airbnb in Oslo and that we ate at twice!

This is Limits Walk, which runs through our neighborhood on the border of St Louis and University City.

I realized I didn’t have any travel on my calendar, and while I’m sure we will do plenty of fun stuff next summer, I decided it would be a good idea to take some time at the end of the calendar year to visit my sister Leslie (it’s the darn kids, don’t want to miss watching them grow!). I bought a plane ticket to visit right after Christmas. Thanksgiving we are planning to spend here and I think maybe my parents will visit. Oh, and did I mention I’m excited about Halloween as well? While we haven’t done any decorating, I’m told that our neighborhood is a big Halloween place, so I am planning to buy a bunch of candy to give out.

What’s new with you? Do you have fall weather where you are living? Read any books lately that you would like to share?

I have to remember that fall is always busy

Fall is such a shock to the system after summer! September was a blur, and now it’s October, and it’s still hot…

We had a lovely concert last weekend: I played viola, Louie and I hosted a small chamber orchestra at our house for an after-concert party, and my parents ended up being in town for both. It was a lot of stress, but a lot of fun. I won’t deny I was relieved when it was over though! This past weekend was much more relaxing: we got in a hike at Greensfelder Park, had dinner with friends, I went to a friend’s birthday brunch party, and attended a concert as well.

The weeks have been hectic: teaching, insane amounts of bus duty as the buses are routinely 20-30 minutes late, more teaching, followed by teaching. My college students have been so much fun this semester, my private students as well, the school kids I’m still getting to know, and everybody, especially high school and up, seems overwhelming and exhausted. It’s going to be a rough year, but I think so far most people are managing. This may be a quasi-post-pandemic return to the normalcy of being completely overscheduled.

I’m not totally overscheduled, but Mondays are tiring, that alarm comes early. I am used to the long days by now to some extent, but I definitely wish for more days off. I can’t articulate what I would give up for that though, so I suppose it’s a good thing. Maybe Louie and I don’t have enough hobbies to work less anyway. (This is mostly sarcasm, as we have a lot of things we ignore, but we get there.)

Mostly I’m just complaining about my schedule. Boring, right? I finished Abraham Verghese’s The Covenant of Water and really enjoyed that. We are watching Suits (currently on season 3, no spoilers please!) and find it a diversion…I wouldn’t describe it as GOOD exactly, but it’s mostly enjoyable and the characters do stupid things that we yell at them about. It’s fun!

How’s your week going?

Camping in Ontario, Canada

I’ve had “write blog post about Ontario” on my to do list for an embarrassingly long amount of time. Sometimes with writing the issue is just sitting down and getting started!

I think the best thing to do at this point is tell you the highlights and share some pictures. We were visiting my sister Leslie and her family in Chautauqua, New York and thought it would be fun to extend our trip by visiting Niagara Falls, and then I got into the idea of camping, and a trip plan was made!

We camped two nights near Niagara Falls at the Niagara Riverside Park Motel and Campground. We had a nice spacious site that was in the back corner. Louie had never been to Niagara Falls before, so we saw the Falls (they are beautiful, but wow the surrounded area is insanely touristy and trashy), and then we did the Hornblower Cruise (formerly Maid of the Mist.) It was fun to be in Canada hearing phrases such as “toonie sized hail” and “sorry.”

A min golf course in downtown Niagara Falls
Wearing the requisite red ponchos for the Hornblower Cruise to the falls
Our campground.

The weather was beautiful as far as temperature, but we did have to dodge a few storms. On our second day we did a hike at the Niagara Falls Nature Glen, went to Niagara-on-the-Lake and had lunch (at the Prince of Wales Hotel, VERY GOOD) and walked around, visited a winery (Trius Winery) and sampled some ice wine, and had a delicious dinner at AG Inspired Cuisine (also VERY Good!)

View from the hike, you can see Louie’s hat there too.
Some Ice Cream in NOTL
We could see Toronto across the lake, this was Lake Ontario.

The next morning it was a bit rainy but we managed to pack up. Our next stop was Selkirk Provincial Park for one night, but we took the scenic route and drove by Lake Erie, visited Ridgway for breakfast, Port Colburn for a snack and to see the drawbridge, and finally to the park, where we walked along the beach and did a hike through the woods before setting a fire and relaxing. The birds were unbelievably loud!

The drawbridge: it went up to let boats through and we were thrilled to see it happen!
Our site at Selkirk
Lake Erie. We dipped our toes in but it wasn’t good for swimming, too stormy in addition to looking very rocky.
Another rainbow!

The next day we drove to Pinery Provincial Park where we would stay for two nights. This park was much bigger and was on Lake Huron. It was slammed with Canadians in trailers having a good week at the beach! We were stuck in traffic for 45 minutes just to get into the park, but after that it was not so bad.

We walked along the Lake our first night, but the second day we canoed on the River, took a hike and then went to swim in Lake Huron. This didn’t last too long because it was cold and we decided we were took old and tired to try to wait out the cold until we got used to it, but it was invigorating and a lot of fun!

We saw this giant larvae near Lake Huron
View from the hike

We relaxed by the fire the second night until the rain came, and then it stayed overnight. After several lovely nights where rain was predicted but didn’t show up, we got rain on our last night and ended up having to pack up frantically in the rain and drive to the first restaurant we could find for coffee. Our drive home was uneventful and overall, it was a lovely trip! We got a really good sense of the southwestern part of Ontario and got to see 3 Great Lakes as well as Niagara Falls, and we had some lovely nights camping and enjoying the fresh air.

Mid September Already??

How does the time go by so fast?

September is almost over, and I feel like it just started. I know I say this a lot, and everybody says that busy isn’t a good word, but oh my goodness this month has been busy.

My before school classes started last week, so I was waking up early and going to teach a bunch of 4th graders how to hold their violins. I have two new colleagues in my classes and they are both amazing! We have three new people total, and I’m sure the third is amazing as well–I just haven’t worked with them in the same way.

I also had a performance this past week with several evening rehearsals. It was a solo part in the premiere of a symphony written by a really nice cello player named Alexander Groesch. The performance went well, though I was relieved to have it behind me. It turns out that many of my colleagues turned down the solo part because they thought it was too hard. I tend to not shy away from difficult parts, and frankly, it wasn’t that bad, just a few tricky spots and some things that just needed to get into my ears. I may simply be a sucker for punishment though!

I had an extra busy week as well due to a few appointments: the doctor, the dentist, and the vet. In the future I will try to remember to space these things out into different weeks!

We went to Urbana last weekend to visit our friends Michael and Heather and to see some concerts/shows at the Ellnora Guitar Festival. It was a wonderful trip–we saw three concerts: Rodrigo y Gabriela, Sharon Isbin and the Pacifica Quartet, and the Ron Carter Trio, which ended up being minus the guitar player who couldn’t find a flight after his initial flight was canceled. We stayed over one night, and also got to enjoy meals at a few local restaurants. It was a lovely time and we loved the variety of musical experiences!

Sharon Isbin and some of the Pacifica Quartet
Ron Carter on bass
Selfie with Sharon Isbin who was fantastic!

Last night we saw “Space: A Celestial Circus Show” which was put together by a wonderful colleague of mine, Abbie Steiling. She composed and played the music (with some other players as well) and it was a fun show with circus performers and pictures of Space by Abbie’s husband, Frederick. Some of the audience didn’t know how to behave in public (a woman in front of us actually had a video playing on her phone WITH SOUND for her young child! you could only hear it during very quiet parts, but WHAT?) but we still enjoyed the show.

So much purple!

Anyway, we have some Trader Joe’s croissants coming out of the toaster oven, so I’d better go. How is your September going?

Happy Labor Day!

I won’t say I always did this, but in recent memory I take Labor Day entirely off and it’s wonderful. Yesterday had that amazing feeling of, it’s Sunday but we have another day off! Maybe someday I will only teach four days a week and make Monday a second day off (or a day off, in the case of gigs.) In any case I’m looking forward to my day, though I have a few errand type things to do this morning (including grocery shopping).

Leslie stayed a night and we got a picture on the morning she was leaving. I recall this was the most humid I could recall it being at 8 am, so awful!

The past two weeks have been good but busy. Work is ramping up, and there have been ups, downs, stressors, and relaxing/fun activities. Stressors include playing viola on a chamber music concert and feeling inadequate about it, some other performance things, and of course generally worrying about having overextended myself this semester with my teaching schedule. Ups include getting to teach the Tchaikovsky and Mendelssohn Concertos both TWICE last week, having a fun wine dinner with friends at the Whittemore House Friday house (this would doublecount as a relaxing/fun activities), feeling valued by being asked to teach more students than every at Wash U, finding out both of my students who auditioned for orchestras at the Community Music School got in, and more.

Wine Dinner menu

Downs are things like: worrying about a friend’s upcoming surgery, feeling inadequate at the viola and sort of missing out on playing the violin on the concert instead, sometimes feeling left out in social settings (though I’ve been working on it), feeling overly tired some days and not giving students my best (I was BRAINDEAD by Friday evening.)

A wedding at the Cathedral Basilica

Relaxing and fun activities: Other than the Whittemore house wine dinner, we had dinner at a new to us restaurant called Diego’s Cantina. It was fine but not my favorite, but we sat outside and the weather was lovely…but then the table next to us started playing music on their phone, I kid you not, even though there was already music playing over the speakers. It was infuriating and ridiculous. In any case, we ate and left and then went home to relax and watch Suits, which Netflix finally convinced us to start watching.

We saw Union Avenue Opera’s last show, Ragtime

We’ve also hosted some friends for brunch AND dinner recently, as well as having gone out to eat with various other friends and Louie’s family-the end of August was a flurry of social activities and I hope to continue hosting people and seeing friends. It’s so easy to get caught up in the busy-ness of the fall season (this is truly the post-COVID schedule, not that COVID is gone, but that any ill affects COVID put on concert scheduling are gone, and perhaps more people are playing violin than ever) and it’s nice to keep seeing friends and feel like there is slightly more to life than fixing bow holds and telling people when to taper a phrase more.

Muriel enjoys sitting in my teaching chair other times and dislikes when I teach

I know I go back and forth on this blog about what I want to do with my schedule. In June I was thinking I wanted to cut back on teaching a bit, and while I actually haven’t added many new students to my private studio, I am teaching my highest college workload ever. This is a variable thing, and I figured the opportunity might not present itself again (I usually have 4-6 hours and I’m actually at 10) so it was worth doing, especially to get to teach some more advanced students, and I always love my Wash U students. But it’s a lot on top of other things…I will make it work, but I think it’ll be an exhausting fall. I’m a little stressed about my before school job starting and the early morning hours: I feel like right now I have plenty going on but I’m not overwhelmed yet, and I worry it’ll push me over, but I also know I can fit it in because I’ve done it before. This may be my last year there, but I haven’t decided for sure–we’ll see in April or May.

Still Blogging

I had a funny conversation the other day on a family zoom: I mentioned how I knew many of them read my blog but never commented, and my youngest sister says, what, you are still blogging, I thought you quit ages ago!

Which, I suppose in a way I did, and then I kept it up! So here we are. It’s the first week of the fall semester for me, in a way, but also the end of summer, and it’s UNBEARABLY HOT outside. The humidity is real.

I say in a way, because this week I started teaching my private students fall schedule, but next week I start with the college kids at Wash U. I’m working on that schedule. And then a few weeks later I start my other school job where I teach before school, and along the way gigs and concerts start ramping up, and before I know it my schedule is super crazy!

But things are well. The summer was fun and relaxing and I did many of the things I wanted to do. Many are still left to do, and I’m trying to prioritize that. I weirdly hurt my shoulder last week doing something–literally I don’t even know–so it’s been feeling gradually better. I tried to run a few times in the horrific humidity: one time unsuccessful due to the shoulder pain, but the second time more successfully.

We’ve done some fun things lately: Saturday night was especially fun. Louie and I walked over to a place called Joe’s Cafe and watched some friends perform with a group there. It was a lot of jazz/latin music, some improv, some written, and so much fun! I always plan things to do, and then right before usually wish I could just stay home and chill, but usually the things are way more fun than staying home would be, and this was an evening that will stick with me for longer! Ranya is one of the first friends I made when I moved to St Louis, and she is an awesome cello player, and Alyssa and Asako were the two violinists, and they both have different styles of playing and are both terrific at what they do. The rest of the band was good too, and the group kept us entertained the whole evening.

I’ve been making a point to get together with friends more often: the pandemic got me out of that habit, and I know that it is so easy to do nothing and it’s harder to get that inertia going, but so well worth it. In the past week I’ve gotten together several times with friends and every time it was so much fun and made me happier. Which was absolutely the intention, and hopefully it did the same for them! It’s also nice to chat with someone other than Louie: we spend a lot of time together, especially over the summer, and it’s always good to get together with others. It’s so easy to just hang out with the other person in your relationship, isn’t it? And then you work a ton, and then just want to watch TV and rinse, repeat.

Miles giving Louie a hug from behind
My windowsill plants

I’m looking forward to a wonderful semester. I know it will be pretty busy, but I am hoping to stay on top of things, have time for exercise and social activities and keep organized. I’ve mentioned I started using a paper planner again for day to day planning. I got into a planning podcast this summer which is by a blogger I’ve read for years (the SHUBox) and that made me want to try paper planning again. I’m using a 90 day planner by Savor Beauty, which is actually a little ridiculous, but I love the reflection pages, which are making me really think about what I want out of life. It’s so easy to get into the day by day of life and just let things happen rather than really considering what I want, and it’s been fun to work on that. I also enjoy having my goals for each day set out (for days when there is time aside from appointments) and then checking things off. I still of course use my google calendar for all things and My Music Staff for teaching lessons organization, but this is for the on the ground day to day stuff. We’ll see how it works during the hectic fall times!

Anyway, that’s all my boring stuff. I’ll end with a cartoon that I saw online that made me laugh.

thoughts about violin, teaching, running, life.